Kater sent me a really awesome bit about love and infatuation. I've learned so much and can really identify with this. I've now been on both sides. Good stuff.

Infatuation is fleeting desire--one set of glands calling to another. It ismarked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager but notgenuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about the relationship that you would just as soon not examinetoo closely. It might spoil the dream.Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day ata time. It is quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. Itgives you strength and grows beyond you to bolster your beloved. You arewarmed by his presence, even when he is away. Miles do not separate you. Butnear or far, you know he is yours and you can wait.Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing him."Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together,you hope it will end in intimacy. Love is not based on sex. It is thematuration of friendship that makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friendsbefore you can be lovers.Infatuation lacks confidence. When he's away, you wonder if he's beingunfaithful. Sometimes, you check.Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. He feels yourtrust, and it makes him even more trustworthy. Infatuation might lead you todo things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.Love is everlasting. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes youbetter than you were before.

Topher.... no worries! You and I are going to make it through anything...

"sugar we're going down swingin!"

Love Everyone!!

Val